Well well well…so now time for an update on the phone drama. The hubby and I had it out for days. He’s a gemini and I’m a scorpio and quite frankly, sometimes it just doesn’t work out best for us, especially when it comes to the way we argue. I only hear my side, he only hears his.
My point of view~ My phone has been on it’s way out for months now. And because I was expecting my final commission check from my last job, I wanted to use that money to upgrade my phone. I had said this over and over to my hubby but apparently he thought that by getting a new phone, it was supposed to be a free phone…or something very cheap. I spent $150 on my BB Tour–not a bad price at all, in fact it’s a steal! But he felt that I should have used that money for the household or for the kids or something. From the way I was looking at it, it was additional money after I had the majority of my Christmas shopping done and it fulfilled both a need and a want for me, so I didn’t think it would be a problem.
His point of view~ He summed it up basically as a slap in the face to him. He feels like him picking up slack while I was unemployed that for me to splurge on myself first chance I get is wrong and selfish on my behalf. And as I stated already, he felt that I should’ve spent the money on the kids or the house or taken care of a bill so that he wouldn’t have to and could have more of his money.
The outcome~ After hearing his side, I agree with him. Not completely tho. While I was unemployed I was on umemployment so I got a check every week. With that check I took care of basic necessities like paying towards rent, and utilities, cable, diapers and basic things like that. I also stayed at home with the kids. But he didn’t have to pay for everything himself. So here’s what I’ve done about it; I am keeping my phone. I thought about returning it and getting my money back, but then that puts me back with a phone that barely works until when? Until it completely conks out on me? Plus I’ve put all my info in my new phone and have adapted to it. Plus, I love it! For Christmas he got me a Target gift card and so did my brother and sister in law, so instead of spending the entire gift card on me, I decided to spend it on all of us. {SN: I always buy something for the kids out of each paycheck aside from basic needs like diapers and bubble bath. I buy either an outfit, or an article of clothing, shoes, something for each of them} But I will admit that since having my job I’ve splurged on myself here and there. So with my gift card I bought a photo album for Jordan that I’ve wanted for a long time, I got the kids both a pair of shoes, Jordan a pair of pants and Brianna a shirt, and I got the hubby some pajama pants. I also got some eyeshadow and lipgloss for me. And what I will do and keep in mind is that sometimes he just wants a break, and to have some extra spending money to do with as he chooses. So with this upcoming paycheck I will pay an entire bill and let him keep his half of the money. And I will get him things from time to time just to let him know I appreciate him. Because that’s what was the real issue…he felt unappreciated and taken for granted. So it would be wrong of me to not take a look at myself and see that sometimes I’m wrong and sometimes I just need to show my man that I do appreciate him and I value him. He’s a great father and husband and sometimes he just needs to be shown that I think so.
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